There are plenty of things they’ll tell you you should have done by the time you’re 30, or skills you should have picked up. But what about the life lessons you should have learned? Get a head start with our 30 suggestions…
You’re Only Here Once
It may be the biggest cliché, but it’s oh-so-true. You didn’t exist for billions of years, and soon enough, you won’t exist for billions more years. So, are you really going to get worked up over stuff that doesn’t matter?
Lose Your Self-Consciousness
The hard truth is that people do not think about you, what you’ve done, what you think, or how you look anywhere near as much as you think they are.
Do The Best You Can
Whatever you do, winning isn’t everything. But you always win if you’re satisfied that you put in the best performance you could. You set your own standards.
Develop A Signature Style
Find a style that works for you because not all trends will. Being recognised as well-dressed comes more through dedication to a look than rushing to follow the latest fads.
Don’t Be So Judgemental
Particularly of other people because they have their own struggles. They’re just trying to deal with the same kinds of crap as you. They don’t mean to be assholes.
Stop Chasing Money And Status
Because these are really modern society’s greatest blind alleys. You’ll never have enough of either, even though neither will bring you tranquillity.
Think For Yourself
About the big topics of the day rather than just accepting received wisdom. Get sceptical. People who tell you what you should think nearly always have a hidden agenda.
Enjoy Your Body
Its power, its grace, its sheer miracle of evolutionary engineering, because it’s a machine that starts to go haywire soon enough. Move, dance, jump around.
Time Is A Finite Resource
If you could see your lifespan ticking down, second by second, you wouldn’t waste it so flagrantly. Fill it as much as possible with things that matter to you.
Give Up Yesterday
It’s over. It’s written into history and you can change nothing about it. So don’t dwell on it. But by the same token….
Don’t Obsess Over Tomorrow
Because anything could happen between now and then. Life may seem mundane in many ways, but it’s often more twisty than one expects.
Buy Property
You should buy any property as soon as you can, even if it means some form of fractional ownership. There’s no point in leaving money in the bank these days.
Accept That You Don’t Know Sh*t
And never will. Nobody, but nobody, has life sorted. It’s a work in progress until, well, there’s no more progress. Keep at it and keep learning.
You Have No Control
Over many things in life. So forget about these. Save your effort for those things you do have control over, even if it’s only some control.
Say ‘No’ More Often
Sure, saying ‘yes’ to everything might mean you can try things you may not otherwise get to, but there’s also time to decline. Nobody will be offended if you choose not to take part. Thanks all the same.
Make It Personal
Because people listen when you express yourself from the heart. Write letters, not emails. Do things in person. Open up – if you feel it, speak it.
Be Ready To Go Your Own Way
The job-mortgage-marriage-kids routine works well for many people, but other routes are available. You don’t have to keep your wheels on the rails provided.
Be More Active Than Passive
The most truly rewarding things you can do typically require the most effort. Take the longer road. Practice your craft. Read books. Make stuff. Don’t just absorb – project.
Luck Matters
It’s a major factor in life. You can’t deflect the bad kind, and – despite what the self-help gurus say – you can’t make the good kind. Everybody is where they are not as a result of their own amazingness or stupidity but in large part because of simple good or bad fortune.
Keep Being A Big Kid
As Shakespeare reckoned, there isn’t a time to put away childish things. If model boats, skateboarding, comics or collecting rocks was your thing, and it still is, go for it. Play more.
Let Yourself Be Awestruck Every Day
Take time to understand the sciences, and you can’t help but be blown away by the sheer facts of things, not least the fact that you’re here at all.
Take Five Everyday To Imagine
Not having the things you have – be that your health, partner, your evening meal or your favourite sneakers, whatever. You’ll appreciate them a lot more after. You may even want more stuff a little less too.
Get A Life Philosophy
Sooner rather than later. A career is a paltry measure of a lifetime. Dig deeper. By what standards do you want to live? At the end, how do you want to look back on the way you were part of the world?
Commit To Someone
Of course, the single life is fun – up to a point. But we’re built to be in a committed relationship. Sometimes, that’s really very hard work, but the rewards are commensurate with that effort.
Manners Maketh The Man
Or, at least, they ease your way through the world. Be thankful. Make eye contact. Hold open doors. Shake hands (again). Speak less and listen more. Treat everyone as your equal.
Social media, on balance, is bad for you. It’s mostly PR and bolshy opinions. It’s the ultimate time suck and mentally destabilising. Just because everyone else seems to be on it doesn’t mean you need to be.
Because no man is an island. Not even a peninsular. The people around you matter, and that includes perfect strangers.
Hone Your Skills
Learn to cook, for example, not to impress but to sustain yourself. Understand money. Repair what’s broken if you can. In other words, become self-sufficient.
Know Your Mind
Literally, because it’s playing all sorts of tricks on you all the time. Understanding why you think and behave the way you do is the first step to avoiding the traps. We highly recommend reading The Chimp Paradox if you’re struggling with this.
Think Cosmically, Man
We know you’re important to you, but the truth is you’re a speck on a planet that’s a speck in a galaxy that’s one speck among countless specks across the endlessness of time and space. Let that fact take the pressure off.
